It absolutely amazes me the number of people who continually find a way to blame their problems or difficult circumstances on their parents. Anytime trouble strikes, they are likely to complain “It’s all my parents’ fault! They are the ones who made me this way.” It sounds a lot like the old saying, “The devil made me do it.”
Rather than take any personal responsibility, these individuals would rather take the “easier path” of blaming their troubles on the fact they had less-than-perfect parents. I’ve encountered people who are in their later years of life, and still harbor resentments and blame toward their parents. What a tragedy when an adult does not choose accountability for their own actions.
Perhaps you are among the people who regularly find ways to blame your parents for things that are happening in your life. Certainly, there are legitimate things that occur in life that can cause emotional scars that have a lasting impact. It is never easy getting over hurts and/or abuse, but there is hope and healing for those who choose forgiveness and personal responsibility.
The Bible strongly exhorts parents to raise their children according to Godly principles. Parents have a flesh nature, so it is inevitable that they will sometimes fail to uphold Godly values. Some parents may not have a relationship with God, or never read scriptures, so they may never show any form of Godly living. Regardless of the ultimate parental relationship with God, Scripture seems to refrain from holding parents completely responsible for the ultimate state of their children. Therefore, at some point a child must accept responsibility for their own choices and actions – especially, as a child moves into being an adult.
The children in Ezekiel’s day had much to complain about. As they were coming of age, they were exiles in a foreign land because their parents and grandparents had forsaken the Lord. They continually complained about their fate because of their parents.
But God declared that His people should stop talking that way (Ezek 18:3). He spoke at length about the fact that sin and righteousness are not inherited. One reaps what one sows. Individuals will be held responsible for their choices and behavior with regard to matters such as: idolatry, sexuality, the use or abuse of money, and the treatment of the poor (Ezek 18: 4-17).
Wrongdoing can not be blamed on anyone but the one who is committing the act. Scripture makes it clear that individuals will be held responsible for their choices, and that responsibility will not be determined by whether we have good or bad parents. We can not choose our parents, but we can choose to forgive them and begin accepting responsibility for our own actions.
No matter how bad a start you may feel you have been given, God calls you to accept accountability for your own life. He has given you the freedom to choose life for yourself, and to forgive those who may have hurt you in the past. Take responsibility for your actions, and ask God to forgive you of your sins and to heal your hurts. He is faithful, and will forgive you of your sins. Accept His Son, Yeshua, into your heart and you will find healing.
About the Author:
Joseph Miller is a father, coach, and "prepper". He regularly shares about
and the need to be prepared
for upcoming difficulties on his blog called "Joseph Report".